24 Brilliant Psychological Life Hacks That Successful People Have Been Using Forever
1. Primacy and recency: people most remember the first and last things to occur, and barely the middle.
When scheduling an interview, ask what times the employer is interviewing and try to be first or last.
2. If you work in a bar or in customer service of any kind...
...Put
a mirror behind you at the counter. This way angry customers who
approach you will have to see themselves in the mirror behind you and
the chances of them behaving irrationally lowers significantly.
3. Once you make the sales pitch, don't say anything else.
This
works in sales, but it can also be applied in other ways. My boss at an
old job was training me and just giving me pointers. I was working at a
gym trying to sell memberships. He told me that once I got all the
small talk out of the way and presented the prices, that the first
person to talk will lose. It didn't seem like a big deal but it actually
worked. Often there were long periods of awkward silence as the person
tried to come up with some excuse, but usually they bought.
4.
5. If you ask someone a question and they only partially answer, just wait.
If you stay silent and keep eye contact they will usually continue talking.
6. Chew gum when you're approaching a situation that would make you nervous like public speaking or bungee jumping.
If
we are eating, something in our brain reasons 'I would not be eating if
I were danger. So I'm not in danger'. Has helped calm me a few times.
7.
8. People will remember not what you said but how you made them feel.
Also most people like talking about themselves so ask lots of questions about them.
9. When you're learning something new, teach a friend about it. Let them ask questions.
If you're able to teach something well, you understand it
10. If you get yourself to be really happy and excited to see other people, they will react the same to you.
It doesn't always happen the first time, but it will definitely happen next time.
11. The physical affects of stress - breathing rate and heart rate - are almost identical to the physical affects of courage.
When
your feeling stress from any situation immediately reframe it: your
body is getting ready to be courageous, it is NOT feeling stress.
12. Pay attention to people's feet.
If
you approach two people in the middle of a conversation, and they only
turn their torsos and not their feet, they don't want you to join in the
conversation. Similarly if you are in a conversation with a coworker
who you think is paying attention to you and their torso is turned
towards you but their feet are facing in another direction, they want
the conversation to end.
13. Fake it till you make it; confidence is more important than knowledge.
Don't be intimidated by anyone, everyone is playing a role and wearing a mask.
14. If you pretend to be something for long enough, you will eventually become it.
15. Not to be creepy, but if you want to stare at someone
unashamedly, look directly past them and wait for them to try and meet
your eyes.
When they fail to do
that, they'll look around (usually nervously for a second) they won't
look at you again for some time. This is your chance to straight up
stare at this person for at least 45 seconds.
16. Build a network.
Become
their information source, and let them be yours. Even grabbing a beer
with a former colleague once a year will keep you in the loop at the old
office. Former coworkers might have gotten a new position in that
office you always wanted to work in, great! Go to them for a beer, and
ask about the office. It's all about connections and information.
17. If you are angry at the person in front of you driving like a grandmother...
Pretend it is your grandmother, it will significantly reduce your road rage
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19. Stand up straight
No
slouching, hands out of pockets, and head held up high. It's not just a
cliche -- you literally feel better and people around you feel more
confident in you.
20. Avoid saying "I think," and "I believe" unless absolutely necessary.
These are phrases that do not evoke confidence, and will literally do you no good.
21. When feeling anxious, clean up your home or work space.
You will feel happier and more accomplished than before.
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23. Always buy the first pitcher or round of drinks.
You'd be surprised how long you can drink on the phrase "I bought the first one."
24. Going into an interview...be interested in your interviewers.
If you focus on learning about them you seem more interesting and dynamic. (Again, people love to talk about themselves.)
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